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I am an aspiring writer and dedicated mommy who hopes to leave the world a little better than I found it. Of course, from what I can tell, as long as I don't drop-kick the world into a giant vat of sewage, I will have accomplished that goal.

Tuesday, February 27, 2007

My Inner Dragon

I'm not entirely sure I agree with the results of this quiz . . . but then again, maybe my feet are turning down a different path than I'm used to walking.


A GREEN Dragon Lies Beneath!


My inner dragon color is GREEN. Click here to try the Quiz!


My inner dragon is the embodiment of Nature and the Earth. I'm also the Earth Elemental dragon; the defender of all living things. You've heard of forest spirits? Well, I'm as big and tough as they get. Click the image to try the Inner Dragon Online Quiz for yourself.

Monday, February 26, 2007

Burn-out

And then one day you look up from whatever menial day-to-day task is occupying your attention . . . and realize that you have no energy left, that your interest in Life is more reactive than active . . . in short - that you have started down the road to a severe case of burn-out.

I'm not surprised. However, I am grateful to have seen it coming. And now at least I have lifted my head and am looking at the horizon - rather than just watching my feet as they carry me down the road. Which road? Any road.

I have been asked to be far too many people at the moment - and to wear far too many hats. At work I support three busy litigation attorneys, assist most of the new hires with their day-to-day questions and issues, participate in training classes and committees, and try to maintain an entire war-room filled with over a hundred years of litigation documents. Oh, and did I mention my place of employment is MOVING at the end of March?

At home - T. has been assigned to 80 hour weeks (no exaggeration). I can finally say that I know what it is to be a single parent, and as much as I love my little squeaker, kids have an ability that is not present anywhere else in Nature - the ability to suck the energy out of your body and convert it into their own energy - which enables them to stay up until midnight begging to play Hungry Hungry Hippo. A. is currently the light of my Life, and I love him dearly - but he has definitely impacted my reserves of energy.

And I can't exactly tell him that his mother is like an oil field with no reserves. The pumps are still running, but the well has run dry.

So it is time to speak up. It is time to start saying "I'm sorry, but I can't handle any new engagements at the moment." It is time to prioritize and cut back on some of the activities I am doing that do not produce an equal amount of energy. And just as soon as I figure out what the heck those are, they're out the door with a boot in their behind.

Ideas anyone?

At least I saw the disaster before it had a chance to grow - to encompass all my life and to meet me like a wall in a 90 mile-an-hour crash. I've slowed the car to 30, and I think I see a small road leading away from the wall if I can get my turn signal to work properly and veer just a little to the right . . .

A. kicks the back of my driver's seat impatiently. "The light is green, Mommy," he says. "Green means 'GO.'"

"Umm, actually the light is red, Little Man."

He bursts into giggles. It helps to remind me that adults take ourselves, our silly lives and traffic laws - entirely too seriously. By the time the light is green, I am grinning too. After all, how can I go wrong with A. as my co-pilot? Thank you for all you teach me, Little Man.

Thursday, February 22, 2007

How Do I Explain?

Wind in the grass -
or sunlight
scattered on the surface of a
quiet lake?

A breathless solitude -
a feeling like
the angle of a swallow's wing,
soaring
in ever-widening circles.

A ripple from within.

Monday, February 19, 2007

Take Care of Yourself

I have always believed the concept that you must care about yourself before you can conceivably care about others. Rules regarding this behavior pop up in unusual places in our society - my favorite is the airplane safety procedures - wherein they warn adults to adjust their own oxygen masks first. After all, you are of no use to your child if you asphyxiate.

And yet - it seems we all have a difficult time with such a simple concept. Take care of yourself.

"I have no time for myself," you think. Well, if you don't - then who does?

So I bit the bullet and joined a recreational center (and promptly suffered through thirty minutes of buyer's remorse). How dare I do something so expensive and selfish for myself?

Perhaps this is the fundamental flaw in humans. That we don't understand ourselves. That we are waiting for someone else to understand us - to reassure us - heck - to take care of us.

(Actually, I believe David Quinn hit the fundamental flaw in humans in his book "Ishmael" . . . but for argument's sake - I think lack of self-worth counts as a fairly fatal flaw in a species). As our civilation heads toward its inevitable crash (only inevitable if we refuse to change) - remember to adjust your own airmask - remember that you are worth something - and for Heaven's sake - TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.

This message brought to you by the letter "A."

Friday, February 09, 2007

"So, What Can I Do to Help You Buy My Car?"

I now know why we have a "sleazy used car salesman" stereotype - and the truth isn't very pretty. My search for a decent Jeep Liberty has taken me over seventy miles from my home - and still, the search has proven fruitless. I did find a lovely little charcoal model that seemed to be the perfect vehicle . . . but then I put it in four-wheel drive, it made a hideous grinding noise, and thereafter would not come out of four-wheel drive and would not turn properly. (I must thank S. for her excellent advice - and I owe her a dinner for showing me the tips and tricks that helped me catch that lemon.)

I will give points to the salesman for a quick recovery. After we limped the charcoal Liberty back to the dealership, I told him to have his mechanic check out what was wrong - and since the vehicle was still under full factory warranty, if it was fixable, I might still be interested. He went inside to ask about possible mechanical issues with the charcoal. When he came back out, he would only say that the charcoal needed "warranty work," and, with one hand resting on the charcoal's fender, he calmly asked, "So what can I do to convince you to buy the blue?"

"The blue's engine was a little rough," I said cautiously.

"You liked it well enough before you drove the charcoal." (Don't ask me why he thought this argument would be effective - especially considering the charcoal BROKE DOWN during the test drive.) The rest of the conversation quickly devolved as he entered "salesman overdrive" and offers of assistance quickly turned into ill-clothed desperate pleas. My favorite comment was:

"I don't know why people get so stressed about buying a car. It's not an investment. It's just a car. It's not like they hold their value."

Uh huh.

So the one dealer, salesman, etc. that I found that has decent jeeps and good customer service also wants roughly $17,000 for a used 2003 jeep with no warranty.

AAARRRGGGGHHHHHHHH.

I really don't think I'm asking overly much. I want a decent vehicle, in good running condition for roughly $14,0000.

As it stands, my self esteem has taken quite a battering. I wonder if anyone has ever done a psychology test that measures self-esteem before and after shopping for a car. Every dealership I depart has left me feeling like I'm a miserable human being for having wasted the salesman's time without purchasing a vehicle (whether or not the vehicle was in working order).

So I'm throwing in the towel for a month or two and taking some time to research other small SUV's. If nothing else, I've collected some rather amusing stories, so I suppose it is not a total wash. Still, I have no idea why people voluntarily go through the process of purchasing a vehicle. I better like what I get . . . because I refuse to go car shopping again until the vehicle falls apart beneath me. And who says duct tape doesn't add to the length of the average vehicles life span? It's worth a try!

Saturday, February 03, 2007

How Not To Sell A Jeep

10:30 a.m.

I waited while the phone rang, nervously rehearsing what I was going to say. “Hi,” I said when the line was picked up. “My name is Andrea Peach, and I’m interested in one of your vehicles I saw advertised on the Internet. It’s a 2004 Blue Jeep Liberty.”

The salesman shuffled through a few papers. “Do you happen to have the stock number?” I did. “Ah,” he said. “I know exactly the jeep you’re referring too. It’s a beautiful little burgundy model with 12,000 miles.”

“Um, actually it’s blue. And it had 34,000 miles.”

There was a pause. “Ah,” he said. “I’m not sure if that one is still on the lot. Do you mind if I check and call you back in five minutes?” When he called back, it was all green lights and good news. “That’s a beauty of a jeep,” he said. “It’s loaded. It has a sunroof, six-CD changer, side airbags. You name it, this jeep has got it.”

“Great,” I said. “I’ll be in sometime today to look at it.”

“I’m looking forward to it,” he said. “The dealership is open until 9:00 p.m.”

8:00 p.m.

I arrived at the dealership. My cell phone started to ring, then cut off suddenly. A salesman approached from the back room of the dealership, hand held out.

“Andrea, I presume?” he asked. “I was just calling you. If you weren’t coming, I was going to go home.” [1]

“I’m here now,” I said.

“Well, let me go get the jeep.” My friend S. (who is extremely practical and good-hearted enough to come along and assist me with my car shopping) and T. wandered around the showroom. When the jeep pulled up, we all looked at each other and burst into laughter.

It was a beautiful jeep. It was also covered in two inches of snow and none of the windows had been scraped. The windshield was a myriad map of droplets and ice. [2] The engine sounded a little rough, but any engine would sound a little rough after starting in below-freezing weather. “Do you mind popping the hood so we can get a look at the engine?” S. asked.

“Let’s wait until we get to the gas station,” the salesman said. “Most of the snow should have blown off by then.” We got to the gas station and he leapt out of the driver’s seat. “Oh,” he said. “I guess it didn’t blow off as much as I thought.” Luckily, by then the defroster had managed to de-ice most of the windows, and S., T., and I huddled around the engine.

T. decided to be the test driver. [3] While T. drove, S. hung her head out the window to listen to the engine.

Did I mention it was below-freezing temperatures? We had all dressed warmly, but the salesman was not amused. “What are you guys doing?” he asked me. “Trying to freeze me out?” [3] I shrugged and continued to ask questions about the jeep’s features, performance, and warranty. Much to my surprise, he didn’t seem very knowledgeable. When I asked if he had researched the warranty, he pointed to a paper in the window and said, “The information should be on that piece of paper.”

After T. pounded through some snow and did a few cookies in a parking lot, S. took over driving. She did a few braking tests as we drove back to the dealership, and she finally announced, “It pulls to the right.”

When we got back to the dealership, it was time to pop the engine again, and see if any leaks had developed. The salesman, clearly tired of being cold, handed me the keys and said, “I’m going inside. Come in when you’re done.” [5] The engine looked great . . . but I had a developing uneasiness about the car. We went inside to find out about potential payments and take a look at the Carfax.

The Carfax report looked great – except the car had taken a random trip to New Mexico. It was sold IN COLORADO at auction about six months ago, odometer reading of say 34,820 miles – then serviced in New Mexico about four months ago, and now back IN COLORADO with a reading of say 34,900 miles. Obviously, it had not been driven to New Mexico, but we all wondered what the heck happened there.

S. shrugged. “It says it’s a lease,” she said, “which I would believe – and is good news because the maintenance has been done on it. My best guess is a dealership in New Mexico purchased it, was unable to move it, and shipped it back to Colorado.” I looked at the Carfax report again. “There’s a recall regarding the ball-joint.” I looked at the salesman. “Do you know anything about the recall? What’s it for? Is this jeep affected?” [6]

He grumbled a little. “You have the Carfax there,” he said. “Other than that, I don’t really know. Can I have your driver’s license to get a copy? And here’s the paperwork. Please fill out the highlighted sections.” [7]

S., T., and I discussed the jeep while the salesman was off doing administrative work. S. shrugged. “It seems to be a good car,” she said. “I’d just make them fix the alignment and make sure the recall issues have been fixed.”

The salesman returned with a few payment plans. Everything looked perfect. But still, the feeling of uneasiness. “It pulls to the right,” I began, “which could be the alignment.”

The salesman waved his hand in the air. “Oh,” he said. “That could be anything. Tires. Alignment. Anything.” [8]

I looked at the papers in front of me. “I think I need to think about this overnight,” I said. “Run the figures through my budget and make sure they’ll work. I promise I’ll call you one way or the other.”

Needless to say, the salesman didn’t look happy.

7:30 a.m. the following day

I plugged “Liberty ball recall” into Google. Oddly enough, there is very little information on the internet regarding this recall . . . but it involves the ball joint that holds the wishbone front suspension together. The recall is a SAFETY recall as the ball can come loose, which can cause loss of steering and/or the entire front of your car collapses onto the front tires.

WHAT THE HELL?!

I spend the day frantically trying to do my job and research the recall issue, and a snowstorm blows in. As I promised the salesman I would call, I did.

“Hi,” I said. “This is Andrea. I wanted to let you know that I haven’t forgotten about you. Things at work were so crazy I didn’t have time to call. I was going to come out this evening to take another look at the jeep [TRUE], but with the snowstorm blowing in, I’m not sure I’m going to make it.”

“Oh,” he said. “I just wanted to let you know that I have a few more appointments from other people to come look at the car.”

“Okay,” I said. “Thanks. And by the way, did you find out anything about the recall?” [9]

He grumbled again. “Um, the jeep is affected.”

“Ah,” I said. “Has the work been done to fix it?” He cleared his throat. “The ball joints are on backorder.” A long silent pause. “Um,” I said, “when do you think it can be fixed by?”

“The parts are on backorder,” he repeated. “So, I don’t know.” Another long silent pause. “By the way, it looks like the dealership is closing early from the storm, so maybe it would be best if you didn’t come tonight.” I laughed inside. “What about your other appointments?” I asked. There was some brief sputtering, then . . . “I suppose they’re still coming in.” I looked out the window at the blizzard. If someone wanted to brave that weather to go look at the vehicle, they were welcome to it. “Thanks again,” I said.

That evening, I spoke with T. about the recall, the absolutely sucky customer service, and the fact that this did, indeed, seem to be a perfect little jeep, provided we could get the recall work done.

The following day:

9:00 a.m.

T. called the dealership to discuss the recall work getting done (the salesman was not in as of yet). He was connected to the service shop – which is apparently populated by competent and friendly individuals (who would have guessed). The service guy reassured us that if the only reason we weren’t purchasing the vehicle was the ball joint, he could pull the part from a newer model and have it ready to go in a few hours. [10]

T. called the salesman to tell him we would take the jeep, provided the recall work was done and it no longer pulled to the right.

“Great,” he said. “But you better hurry in, because the first person with cash gets it.” No effort to work with us. No request for a good faith deposit. Nothing. T. was furious. “Fine,” he said. “We’ll call back in the afternoon and see if it’s still there. If not, we’ll just look elsewhere.” The salesman seemed flustered, but made no effort to find an alternate way of sealing the deal.

Later that afternoon, it dawned on me that I could work through lunch and get off work an hour early. Unfortunately, T. was called into work, so he could only drive me to the dealership, but not home. “Not a problem,” I said. “I can drive the jeep home. This will work perfectly”

“Um,” T. said. “No, you can’t. The salesman wouldn’t let it go to the shop for the recall fix until we purchase it. And it requires several hours of work.”

WHAT?! I CALLED AT 9:00 AM AND THE SALESMAN WAS NOT PROACTIVE ENOUGH TO IMMEDIATELY PUT THE CAR IN THE SHOP?

Not to mention . . . this is a SAFETY recall. The only reason NOT to fix it is if they are hoping some unsuspecting soul fails to ask about the recall and make them fix it. (Okay . . . okay . . . in all honesty, there is a second reason. The parts are scarce and they may need them for the newer models . . . but still . . . SAFETY RECALL.)

Long story short – the jeep sold to someone else at 6:00 p.m. (and lord only knows if the recall work was done . . . .). Part of me is very sad I missed out on this beautiful jeep – and part of me is extremely happy that the salesman doesn’t get any of my money.

And it’s back to searching for a jeep . . . .

GRRRRRRRRRRR.

[1] The first thing he says to me is “I was going home.” I admit it was late - - but I repeat - - the FIRST thing he said to me is “I was going home.”

[2] He knew from 10:30 a.m. that I was coming in to look at the jeep – and NEVER BRUSHED THE SNOW OFF.

[3] Note: he never asked any of us for our driver’s license and/or proof of insurance. . . .

[4] A) If he didn’t know what we were listening for, I wasn’t about to tell him, and B) it was cold . . . butt cold . . . but every other comment focused on how cold he was rather than the features and/or condition of the car.

[5] I repeat . . . he never asked any of us for ID. We could have driven off and they would have had one heck of a time finding us.

[6] I ASKED ABOUT THE RECALL.

[7] Now he asks for my Driver’s License . . . .

[8] I did not omit his offer to fix it. HE DIDN’T OFFER.

[9] Note this information was never offered. I had to keep after the issue. Like pulling teeth . . .

[10] Is it just me . . . or was that the salesman’s job? Why did we have to call the service department to discuss replacing the ball joint?